Reach for the Honeycomb, Not the Bees

Calm After the Storm – May my words be the calming waters, the honeycomb

Proverbs 16:24 – “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”

How many times have I chosen to speak out in anger and hurt the feelings of others before choosing the honeycomb and speaking kindness to diffuse the situation? How many times have I chosen pride to have the last word and cause further hurt instead of the honeycomb for those I love? Guilty here.

I certainly know there are situations that warrant someone not to continue down a path of abuse, but many times I know I have made the wrong choice with my words especially to friends and family. How easy it is to abuse them and cause more hurt and pain. Why? My sinful nature in full force.

Although, I pray for the wisdom of Solomon before such conversations, I always seem to fall short. I never stop believing that God is there and will give me the wisdom and provide the peace if I continue to follow that path even when my sinful pride takes over. I believe God’s words ” And the Lord gave Solomon wisdom, as he promised him. And there was peace……. 1 Kings 5:12.

I am just so bad at reaching for the honeycomb only to pull out the bees. I want peace and pray not to hurt those I love, but the bees just swarm and I miss the honey. The honey from God which is always so close in His Word. Such as Psalms 119:103, “”How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth!” I want the sweeter than honey words from God to flow from me. I want others to see a person who puts other above herself and uses God’s words of honey first.

All people are created in the image of God, this is constant reminder to me when I meet people, disagree with people, and watch the world go round. I am not special, we are all created in his image. No one can be above another. All people are made by God. Stopping to remember this puts perspective in difficult places. I am a sinner saved by the grace of God. That is why I always can find the bees.

Friends and Family are created in God’s image which is a reminder to me no matter how trivial something is or even whether intent for pain was meant, each person receives in different ways. God made us different and I have to remember to love and reach for the honeycomb and not the bees when this happens. Let the honey drip from my lips and not the sting of the bees. This is hard remember to turn the other check. Matthew 5:39, “But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.”

God’s light shining on calm waters. His wisdom brings you peace.

Matthew 5: 14-16, “14 “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that[b] they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”

Prayer: Lord give me the wisdom to find the honey before the bees.


Goals for 2022

Mid Year Check in…..

I know it is time for a reset and to revisit the habits/goals that I created for year 2022. I spent the first part of this year reading a book that lead me to develop some life goals for the year. Pen to paper covering the four quadrants outlined in part of the book. I know that I have forgotten slowly to read them and act on them each day as I should, so time to be repeated aloud.

Core Beliefs

1 Thessalonians 5:18: “give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

  • Happiness is a Choice
  • Be Thankful

1 Peter 2:16: “Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover up for evil, but living as servants of God.”

  • Always serve God First
  • Be Free, but a slave to God. This is how freedom not taken away.

Looking back over my core beliefs, I can at least feel good about making happiness a choice even in the toughest times, but I fail to be as thankful as I should and to remember to always serve God first above all else in this world. Reading this again does make me stop and think about the time I spend on other things each day and don’t spend with my Father in Heaven. I become a slave to the world and not to God.

Core Values

Deuteronomy 6:4-8 (vs7): “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”

  • Success=To God
  • Better Relationships
  • Less Judgement
  • Love All People with Action
  • Find Happiness with Less Materialism
  • Reflection: Doing the Best You Can With What You Have, Where You Are

This is a tough one to revisit. I can see all my human mistakes with people especially people I love. The best part of this reflection is am I building better relationships, passing less judgement on others, can people see my love in my actions. Although the sinful nature that I have sometimes misses material things and I still have plenty, I have learned to live with some much less, but I need to push myself even more to rid myself of stuff.

Life Goals

Hebrews 11:1: “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” Success = For Yourself

  • Love Myself in order to Love Others Better
  • Appreciate People more that God places in our path

This is a hard one to revisit because I know that I do not love myself easily. I always say and try to begin a new and feel strong, but my daily failures only show me again and again that I need to work harder and then I listen to my weaknesses and fail to love myself fully. I just see all my mistakes. How can I love others, How can I appreciate those God places before me to bless, love, help, etc. when I see myself as so unworthy and such a failure for Him. I know all these thoughts are wrong, yet I let them win over my soul and keep me from following God’s plan for my life. I have to start living for God and not this world.

Daily Habits

Psalm 119:103: “How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth!” Measurable, Meaningful, and Maintainable Commitment Devices:

  • God’s Word
  • Journaling
  • Coffee Conversations

I definitely need to work on my daily habits. As this was the focus of the book I read, which I will leave a information about at the bottom of this post. Forming habits to meet goals and bring your life in alignment to what God’s plan is in your life. I need to work harder on reading his word and applying it to my life through writing which I am at least doing right now. Finally sharing the word, this was a habit my husband and I set to share together over coffee. We need more Coffee Conversations!


Lord, help me grow in this Journey of recognizing Your Presence with me. Help me prioritize the quiet moments to hear Your Voice through Your Word, and to believe what You placed in me ~ Amen

Closing Thoughts: So glad I stopped and did this mid year spiritual check on my soul. I know my soul needs more of God and less of the world. I need to keep reaching for Jesus. Take the time to do your own mid year spiritual check and search your soul. Have you lost your way? I think I have gotten sidetracked.

Note: See the picture below to see how I list my goals and see them each day. I got this idea and others about starting habits from the book I read first to start the year off. Do It For A Day by Mark Batterson. I highly recommend. Read it and begin some new habits today!